Your own physical and mental wellbeing should be a priority.

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The stress of exclusion can be armful, so try to focus on regular exercise like walking each day.

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If possible, try to make gentle, low pressure contact with the adult child with perhaps a card or a short email, taking care not to demand access to your grandchild, and avoiding accusations and anger.

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​Professional mediation is a useful and possible path to consider before taking legal action.

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Keep copies of all letters or messages which might be used for legal evidence later.

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Under UK law, grandparents have no automatic rights to see their grandchildren. You CAN apply for permission from a court to apply for a Child Arrangement Order, but you will need a solicitor for this.

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Do's

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Be careful and selective when employing the services of a solicitor and taking legal advice. 

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Respect boundaries of all people involved.

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Consider the lived experience and successes of grandparents who have shared their story on this site..

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Don'ts

Criticize the parents in front of the grandchildren.

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Apply excessive pressure on the parents for visits.

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Give up hope.

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